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Adult Children of Gray Divorce

This webinar examines how later-life parental divorce affects adult children, grandchildren, divorcing parents, extended family and community support system relationships. Two California-licensed psychotherapists who are experienced collaborative divorce coaches and adult child specialists teach participants:

  1. The significant concerns and unmet needs that adult children in the various stages of adult development may face, and how these issues can affect adult children, grandchildren, the divorcing parents, and their divorce outcomes.
  2. The importance of maintaining their valuable family, extended family, and community relationships.
  3. The value of recognizing adult children as stakeholders in their parent’s divorce
  4. The significance of parent-child attachment bonds from the cradle to the grave.
  5. The shock and grief that ensues from the losses that accompany parental divorce and the importance of understanding and acknowledging this shock and grief.
  6. The stages of adult development and how they can affect adult children’s adjustment to parental divorce.
  7. Effective communication skills and why they are important for family adjustment and healing.
  8. The concept of boundaries and how to set effective boundaries with family, extended family, and community members.
  9. The concept of family roles and rules and how they change during and after divorce.
  10. The importance of family traditions and rituals, and how they change during and after divorce.
  11. The effects of parental dating, repartnering, and remarriage, and how to effectively navigate these life transitions.
  12.  Ways divorcing parents can help their adult children.
  13. Techniques and tools for hope and healing for adult children, divorcing parents, grandchildren, and community support system members. 


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Bruce Fredenburg, M.S., LMFT

Bruce Fredenburg, author, M.S., LMFT, with Board Certification in Clinical Hypnosis has been a California Licensed Marriage and Family therapist since 1982. He has more than 30 years of experience working with parents, teens and younger children. He also has extensive training in divorce related issues and blended families, mediation and collaborative practice. Bruce has additional training and experience in the management of chronic pain, dealing with trauma, chemical dependency and addictions. He is the co-author of Home Will Never Be the Same Again: A Guide for Adult Children of Gray Divorce, published by Rowman and Littlefield Publishers and available on Amazon or directly from the publisher.

As one of the founding members of Collaborative Divorce Solutions of Orange County (CDSOC) in 2003, he serves as a Divorce Coach, Child Specialist and Case Manager. Bruce has held various board positions for CDSOC, including the position of Chair of CDSOC’s Training and Education Committee. From 20011 - 2019 he served on the Leadership Team and and as a Senior Trainer for the Collaborative Divorce Education Institute (CDEI), which a non-profit organization whose mission was to provide excellent training for collaborative professionals, as well as education for the public about peaceful and respectful solutions for families who are restructuring before, during and after the divorce process. As a member of CDEI’s Training Team, he trained Attorneys, Mental Health Professionals and Financial Specialists in various aspects of Collaborative Divorce.


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Carol Hughes, Ph.D., LMFT

Dr. Hughes has worked with divorcing couples and their children since 1983 in her private practice in Laguna Hills, California. She is a California licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and family-focused divorce professional. As a therapist, co-parenting and child specialist, divorce coach, and mediator, she has assisted hundreds of families experiencing separation and divorce. 

She has extensive training in collaborative divorce, mediation, domestic violence, chemical dependency, and trauma recovery and for ten years served as an associate professor of Human Services at Saddleback College training prospective counselors, therapists and others pursuing professions in human services. 

In 2003, Carol was a co-founder of Collaborative Divorce Solutions of Orange County, where she has served on its board of directors in many capacities including past President. She has also served on the board of directors of California’s statewide organization Collaborative Practice California (CP Cal) and various committees of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals. 

In 2011 Collaborative Practice California honored Carol with the Eureka Award that recognizes those who have made significant contributions and demonstrated an abiding dedication to establishing and sustaining Collaborative Practice in California.  

In addition to publishing numerous divorce-related articles that are available on her family-focused divorce website www.DivorcePeacemaking.com, she authored a chapter titled "The Role of the Child Specialist" in the book Divorce Puzzle, Connecting the Pieces Collaboratively, published in 2017 by Open Palm Press, and she co-authored Home Will Never Be the Same Again: A Guide for Adult Children of Gray Divorce, published in June 2020, by

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